I need to briefly rant.
WHY is it that my boy children do not get the concept of be quiet and don't be weird? We've tried Cub Scouts and now Junior Grange, but in neither case did my boys understand what it means to sit down, be quiet, and LISTEN. Nope.
In Scouts, they were young and our pack was small without a lot of men volunteering. With my hubby gone for long periods of time, the boys don't get a lot of male influence. Top that off with a health dose of Asperger's Syndrome and a lack of understanding of what that really entails and you've got a recipe for disaster. That is exactly what it was. I played the Scouting game for a year and a half. I threw in the towel because of a problem with the Cubmaster, but I should've just given up the first year when my boys refused to try and actually EARN their badges. There was nothing in it for them.
The latest failure involved Junior Grange. We are just start a Junior Grange group at our Grange and I had all three of my kids going. I really enjoy going to the Grange and I wanted my kids involved too. Small town= not so many kids and all of mine were picked as officers. We had our first official meeting and my boys were being themselves. I could split hairs and tell you how well-behaved (or misbehaved) the other kids attending were, but there's no point. Long story short: I got a call today from the adult leader and she thinks my boys are too aggressive and not respectful. She also thinks they will "scare" some other children, "sweet little girls," that haven't been able to come to Grange because they've been sick. That's fine. My boys just won't be a part of the Junior Grange. There's nothing in it for them.
In both cases, I was trying to get them involved in extra-cirricular activities so that they would get the experience of interracting with kids that aren't in their class or even necessarily in their school. It just occurred to me that I can add self-defense class to this list as well. Rodney lasted one class with that before I pulled him out and Raymond made it through half the year before the instructors booted him.
I'm not blaming here. I just wish I knew how to get my kids to understand the importance of staying quiet and listening. At least I think that would help, but really I don't know.
Oh and if you read this and you don't know me personally, don't think for a minute that my children aren't disciplined. I have tried my best and I know that's not good enough. I don't need anymore input on that, thank you very much.